Kindred Mom Founder Emily Allen Talks About the Importance of Messes, and When She Stopped Working for a Boss

Emily Allen is mom of six and founder of Kindred Mom, a collaborative blog and podcast dedicated to helping moms flourish in motherhood. Emily is authentic, deeply heartfelt, and has a brain that moves fast.

In short, we’re in love with this amazing work at home mom and what her life says about courage and trying something new.

Read the full interview below!


Stand For Mom: Emily, we’re so glad you’re here. Tell us about yourself.

Emily Allen: I am a homeschool mama, a serial entrepreneur, and a creative who constantly discovers new things I am interested in. I have six kids—three boys and three girls—who range in age between 1-11 years old.

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SFM: How did you become a work at home mom?

EA: In a manner of speaking, I guess I have always been a “work at home mom” in the sense that I’ve always had a variety of projects going on that are not typically seen as “stay-at-home” mothering.

This started most notably when I began my wedding and family photography business before my oldest daughter was born, and I went on to run that business for eleven years before closing the doors for new and different creative adventures as a homeschool mom and writer.

I had been homeschooling and running my business for several years, but as we added to our family, it was becoming more difficult to sustain the photography business.

The following roles are all things I have done at a professional or semi-professional level in the past 15 years. I have not held a paying job (with a boss, anyway) since my early twenties, and even those were part-time, seasonal, or summer jobs. So I guess to best answer the question about what I do: I am a mama who blazes her own trail.

Singer/Songwriter/Performer
Audio Engineer
Professional Photographer
Graphic Designer
Writer/Editor
Creative Coach
Business Strategist
Marketing Enthusiast
Podcaster

SFM: What have you learned as a work at home mom?

EA: I have learned that there is no one as motivated to make space for what matters to them than a mother who wants to be with and invest in her babies, but also has a string of other dreams that cannot wait for twenty years to be pursued.

Emily Allen Kindred Founder Interview

I have learned that I cannot define success conventionally, because some would see what I’ve accomplished and be unimpressed by the numbers. However, I am always learning, growing, and I would say that my family is thriving largely because I am creatively stimulated, showing them by example how to live education as a lifestyle, and all of the above has influenced my approach to motherhood.

I’ve learned that messes are necessary for the creative spirit, and courage means taking the next right step, not having every last thing figured out.

SFM: Where are you struggling right now?

EA: Most recently I have been struggling to not max out my internal/mental bandwidth. These past six months, I have been giving birth to an idea that is years in the making, strategically pouring every last ounce of “free” time and energy into a new online community (collaborative blog, podcast, Facebook group and beyond).

Emily Allen Kindred Founder Interview

Between that venture and my mothering tasks, it has been more difficult to spend time with friends, keep up on my housework (to a level I desire, anyway), and I would also say, I don’t have a great balance of rest time to work time.

SFM: What's your best piece of advice for other moms?

EA: Simplify anything that can be simplified. I have made simple systems for everything that needs to be done again and again around the house so I can spend a minimal amount of time doing the basics. I also have a habit of planning one day ahead.

I look at the upcoming 24 hours and make a list of every task I need to remember and do. This allows me to get through task after task without getting hung up on remembering what else I need to do.

-SFM

Emily Allen Kindred Founder Interview

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When motherhood MAKES your dreams | the Stand For Mom Show No.2

The Stand For Mom Show is a live ten-minute workshop hosted every Tuesday morning at 10am CST right here on our Facebook page

This week, we interview Jena Holliday, mama of 2, phenomenal artist, and creator of the #100daysofmotherhoodsof project. Jena shares honestly about the transition from full time working mom of one to work at home mom of two. She even opens up about her son's medical scare--and the resulting miracle. 

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Mom of Two Opens Coffee Shop with Childcare...basically every mom's dream

Shelly Weiser is a mom of 2 and graphic designer. In Fall of 2017 she will open The Hive, a coffee shop with supervised childcare, complete with wifi, coworking, coffee and snacks, and beer and wine. Basically, every mom and dad’s dream!

 

Shelly chats with us on the challenges of transitioning into work at home motherhood, starting a new business venture, and how to react when your preschooler talks about beer to her teacher.

Edit: The Hive's Startup campaign is LIVE! Click here to learn more--the first 48 hours are the most important!!! 

 

Stand For Mom: We are wildly excited about your new business venture, and can’t wait till every city has one. Can you tell us how you had the idea for The Hive?  

 

Shelly Wieser: I’m a mom of two young children, and a graphic designer from home, and I just never had anywhere to go if I had a last minute project, or a deadline. So, I figured there’s got to be other parents that need this, even if it’s not to work, just to visit with friends or take a break.

 

My goal when I have parents or grandparents or whoever needs help with their children, I hope they will walk into The Hive and take a deep breath of relief, and then think to themselves, “let’s do this!”

 

SFM: Have you always wanted to open brick and mortar shop, or is this something you never imagined yourself doing?

 

SW: Definitely the latter. I had no thought whatsoever growing up or even as an adult to have a brick and mortar, so I’m quite terrified! I just saw the need there, and I thought somebody has to do this, so why can’t it be me.

 

I come from a family of self employed people. My dad owned a company for 35 years and had 25 employees so I saw it done and i saw what goes into it, what it takes, the nights and the weekends, so I’m prepared for that. I saw the need and the possibility there at the same time, so providing that for other parents is such an amazing thing to be able to do!

 

SFM: Let’s talk motherhood and kids and becoming a work at home mom. What was it like for you?

 

SW: My kids are 4 and 2.5. I was a freelance graphic designer when they were born, and I was lucky enough to be able to keep working and not to have to transition from a full time office job.

 

I had been set in my ways for a long time. I was 35 when I had my first! I was self-employed for ten years when she was born.

 

You know, I had my day to day routine down: I went to the grocery store at 10am because nobody was there, and then I worked from 11-2, and then the babies came, and it wasn’t grocery store at 10 because it was naptime! There was no way to schedule anything. The babies don’t really care about your schedule, they’re going to nap or not nap, or cry or not cry, and I really had to learn to live on their terms and not mine. What they needed vs what I needed. I had the ability to adjust my life and my schedule around that, thankfully. I also am super blessed to have amazing parents who are here for me a lot.

 

It wasn’t so much the daily transition as much as an emotional transition and having to give up part of yourself. I am very driven and very type-A and I think that was my part of the transition, having to learn to adjust to the fact that my babies were more important than my checklist.

SFM: What do your kids think?

 

SW: Owen just wants to play with his trucks and be held. Annie somewhat gets it. I tell her “mommy’s starting a restaurant.” When I’m starting a phone call and she wants me to play puzzles, I have to tell her “mommy has to get on this call real quick and then I can play puzzles.” So I’ve started to explain why we have more calls and meetings than we used to.

 

Actually, we are going to have beer and wine at the restaurant, so she told her teacher the other day that mommy’s starting a restaurant for kids and beer. I had to explain to the teacher!

 

 

SFM: Do you worry about being a mom who works?

 

SW: One thing my mom brought to my attention was concern over how it would affect my children, and the fact that I wouldn’t be there as much as I am able to be there now. I thought long and hard on that, and I struggled a little on that. I know the first few years will be tough, and self-employment is always a 24-hour job, but I think there’s a benefit to both my children. Especially my daughter, to see her mommy be strong and do something, to show her the strength of women.

 

My dad was self-employed, and we were up there weekends and we put all the time and effort and saw his drive, and saw what it took. Now both of his children are self-employed. I truly think my children will benefit from experiencing their mom do this. Plus, they’ll be able to be at work with mommy and play!

 

SFM: Where is your biggest struggle as a work at home mom?

 

SW: I struggle to fit it all in one day, and fit it all in well. You try to do everything to the best of your ability (I want to say “perfectly,” but I’ve had to realize it’s to the best of my ability). You still do the daily grind, but you’re adding so much into it every day, like learning about septics and going through thirty-seven page leases, while at the same time being a good mom and going to the grocery store and planning a vacation and doing all that stuff that’s stressful already. So that’s my struggle, fitting it all in and fitting it all in well. My kids go to Mother’s Day Out from 9-1 and fitting 16 hours of work into 4 hours is really hard! My four hours a day, every single minute is important, they can’t be wasted. It’s just hard to organize it all and fit it all into one day. And to stay sane at the same time! And sleep.

 

SFM: I mean, how do you sleep and stay sane?

 

SW: The question is, do I do that?! That’s my goal...you know, I guess sleep is just out of pure exhaustion at the end of the day. That’s how I accomplish that. I can’t guarantee that I accomplish the sanity 100%! That one’s a crapshoot every now and then.

 

SFM: What do you do when you get discouraged?

 

SW: I am lucky enough to have a handful of really strong women that are girlfriends of mine that I can call and say, “you must meet me at Maudie’s for a margarita!” They’re so supportive, and from day one they’ve been a sounding board and a reminder that I’m not crazy (which I sort of need on a daily basis). They believe in my cause and want it to happen as badly as I do, they know that it’s a wonderful thing and needs to happen.

 

Are you as in love with Shelly as we are? You can follow along with The Hive on Instagram, Facebook, or better yet--join The Hive’s mailing list here.




 


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